Positivity, Life & The Wholehearted

Viking Ship

Viking Ship

Sometimes, no all the time, it is tough to be positive in a society that is constantly belittling, criticizing what is wrong ( and there are things which are wrong) and just looking at all the mistakes. The sad thing is that most of us regret hurting others, choosing the wrong path and then finding out later how wrong it really was, but by then it is too late. Remember, hindsight is clear and 20/20. Yet, the damage has been done.

So making different choices and seeking to live with honesty and wholeheartedness will be difficult. You will be swimming upstream and going against the tide. However, the life we create for ourselves and others will be worth it.The more smiles we can give to others, the more smiles we will get in return. The more smiles going on in our world means there is more of the positive, fell good hormones or chemicals coursing through the blood streams in the folks around us as well as our own.

BC Street Art

Street Art in Bay City, Michigan

Taking time to write this, putting words to page and thoughts out in the open, has already made a difference in my life. I’ve said in the past that I’d really like to write more often. So I’m going to make another great attempt to share my thoughts with my readers. I really pray that you have an opportunity to smile today and share some hope and positivity with someone in your life.

The pictures are of some positive things in my life this summer. The top one is of the Draken Harald Hårfagre which is the largest Viking ship which was sailed to Bay City, Michigan from Norway. They have had some challenges as they made the trip. You can read about the journey by clicking on the name above.

The second picture is the Bay City Street Art that was a project completed through a “Leadership Bay County class, a giant, colorful compass featuring a sailboat has been stamped in the middle of the intersection of Center Avenue and Water Street, just outside the entrance to Wenonah Park.” The cool part for me is that they asked my son, Adam to design the piece of art for the project. Again you can check the link for more details.  I am going to try and continue to share the pictures of my journey.

Blessings, Peace, Joy, Hope and Laughter,

Sharing a Smile :-), Jolly John

 

Getting Started

It has been a long time since my last post. A friend of mine told me I should get writing no matter what. So today I am going to start once again. The challenge is writing something that will be worth reading. Something that will be coherent and clear and make a difference for those who take the time to read it. With millions of blog posts flying out into the world wide web, how can the words I write be found, let alone bring the skills of positivity to people so they can incorporate them into their daily lives? I am concerned about grammar and punctuation, logic and value, but will I be able to fulfill that standard. Right now, I am content to admit I am a novice when it comes to getting everything right and perfect before I share it with the world. However, I have insight, courage and a message that could help others and so I can’t remain silent even in the face of my fears.

In Elie Wiesel’s acceptance speech before the Nobel Peace Prize committee, in talking about his experience of surviving the evil of the German Concentration camps, he said, “I must explain how naive we were, that the world did know and remained silent. And that is why I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation.” These words echo in my ears as I think of the challenge of helping people to see the dangers that our cultures face from the enemy called, ‘Ignorance.’ Then Elie goes on to say, “We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Sometimes we must interfere.”  Interfere when bullies act, when intimidation and shame are heaped to gain power and supremacy to keep awesome, creative people from reaching their full potential. Being and remaining positive helps people by providing their brain, mood and body with the best building blocks necessary for find the creative solutions for peace, harmony and life. The truths are available for us when we listen to those who won’t remain silent.

Blessings, Peace, Joy, Hope and Laughter,

Sharing Positivity, Jolly John

POSITIVITY – DOES IT WORK?

I am learning everyday about things which influence our attitudes and behavior. Today, I watched this TED Talk because I read about it in the Laughter Yoga newsletter. Dr. Madan Kataria has always said when it comes to the benefits of laughter we must, “Fake it until we make it.”  In other words our bodies receive the benefit from Laughter even if it isn’t real when we begin. Our bodies do not know the difference between “real laughter” and “fake laughter”. Humor is a cognitive reality while laughter is a physical reality. Professor Amy Cuddy a professor and researcher at Harvard Business School, shares her research in how your body position influences others and even your own brain. She studies how nonverbal behavior and snap judgments affect people from the classroom to the boardroom. And her training as a classical dancer  is evident in her fascinating work on “power posing” ! Check this out.

Courage To Be Yourself

Old Port Washington Light

Old Port Washington Light

On August 12th I received a phone call from my mother telling me that my father had died. While he had cancer and it had spread to his bones, he courageously endured until he became so weak he could hardly walk. With a blood sugar above 800, he was taken to the hospital where he spent another week or two. Then to a rehab nursing facility where he was not really happy. All he wanted to do was go home. With my mother at his side, he is now with the Lord. If there is one thing I saw in my father’s life it was the confidence and courage to try new things. He invented a die casting machine, had it built and attended trade shows in hopes of selling his machine to the industry. It didn’t happen. That didn’t stop dad. He continued to think, plan and put his ideas into practice. He was creative and always looked for a good and positive solution to improve the world and the work that he did. In our world it seems as if the media and the dominate culture is telling us that we should be, “Like everyone else.” So we buy the clothing others are buying. We choose houses like everyone is living in. We vote the way everyone else is voting, but does this really bring a feeling of positivity? Or does it really leave us feeling as if, “we are not enough”?  If you are tired of these negative feelings, you have the power to change them. Build positive skills into your life. Write a thank you note to someone who touches your life. Keep a gratitude log of three or four things or people you are truly grateful for. The more you look for the blessings of life the more you will see.

Blessing, Peace, Joy, Hope and Laughter,

“Jolly” John

 

A Work In Progress

For the major part of my life, I have ministered to people in various walks of life.  As a parish pastor, I stood with the sick, the bereaved, the desperate, the confused, the lonely, the aged, the lost and the dying. I rejoiced over new life as families welcomed new members. I cried as I considered the confusion of our world and the multitude of voices leading bright and creative people down roads that lead away from hope, affirmation and harmony with one another. Following the death of my own son, and the ensuing darkness of my loss and grief, I was given the opportunity to process the stress and the uncertainty of life with a bunch (I really wanted to say multitude, but I’m not sure I even now that many people.)of very special, who had the courage to allow me to lead them through their grief.  During this journey I was exposed to the benefits of positivity and the science based, hard facts, that people have the option and opportunity to get up and out of the mire of negativity. I have come to realize that our culture is what I call, “marinated in negativity.” This  unseen negative cloud that hangs over us creates stress and thwarts creativity making problem solving much more difficult, even impossible. So now I am embarking on the new passion of bringing the Joy, Hope, Laughter and Creativity of POSITIVITY to Bay City of Michigan and beyond. The more people who are willing to join with me on this journey the more joy’s benefit will “broaden and build” as Dr. Barbara Frederickson says in her book Love 2.0.  While I’d love to share all I’ve learned right now, I can’t. But I will tell you I haved  trained as a leader in the International Laughter Yoga organization, and will be showing people what sustained and unconditional laughter can do for them and the precious people in their lives, their families, and others who live in and around Bay City, Michigan. I could use your help to reach the goal of making Bay City, Michigan known as the Joy and Laughter Capital of Michigan. if you hear of Laughter “Yoga”, don’t let the “yoga” in Laughter Yoga to scare you because of past impressions. The “yoga” is about healthy breathing, and moving, and child-like playfulness. We do not do positions. In India they have groups which meet daily in the park to have a sessions before they go to work. The benefits of laughing and joy for stressed people are amazing. Thanks for reading this far. Look for more resources as I build this web site.

Blessings, Peace, Joy & Laughter,

Jolly John Wernecke